Friday, September 30, 2011

Family Bond



"Family comes first"



What was the first thought that came to your mind when you read that quote? Before you read on, I want you to write that thought on a piece of paper (or just hold on to that thought).


















Nowadays, it seems that people have interperated this quote very differently. It seriously saddens me that it's becoming more "family comes last" day after day. I see brothers and sisters fighting every day for the silliest reasons, parents arguing with their children, even punishing them just because they are too damn proud to admit that they were wrong. Is this really what is becoming of what 'was' a sacred bond?

No bond is more sacred than that of a family, there is a reason why we don't choose who our family are, you can choose to neglect them, ignore them but NEVER deny the fact that they are your family. The reason we don't get to choose our family is that we are not supposed to like them, you WILL have arguments together and some serious issues, but we're supposed to love them nonetheless, no matter what they do that's NOT supposed to change. 

My message to the eldest brothers or sisters in the family is please, don't be the last person on your sibling's mind when they need help, don't let them think you are the LAST person that will EVER -willingly- help. I really don't understand the big deal with swallowing your pride and doing something nice for your younger brother or sister. Believe me it makes ALL the difference in the WORLD for them to know you support them, or that you're proud of them. If you think your brother or sister is an idiot/lame or whatever label you'd like to call them, THINK AGAIN, there's a reason you think that, and that is because you do NOT know them. Not the real them, you're only focusing on their "family side"...

Why is it fair that you do not help them have a better start than you did? A better life? Why do you think they should suffer as much as you did alone? Wouldn't it have helped if you had someone to help you during YOUR hard times?  Does the idea of your sibling to SUFFER as much as you did really makes you happy? If you are then you seriously have some issues you need to work out.

In the end, I urge you not to judge with the "family" mask, try to understand their position, put yourself in their shoes see how it FEELS to be them, because only then will you be a 'true' sibling.  Now I want you to take a look at the paper with what you wrote, and take a look at it again, then read the first quote again (or just compare what what was in your head, with what thought the second time you saw the quote).

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Monday, September 26, 2011

Nothing is Written in Stone



NOTHING is written in stone.



STOP hiding behind this sad excuse, and take control! It bothers me when I see people 'playing' the victim all the time, yes, I get it, your life sucks. News flash: life sucks anyways. Stop pretending that someone else is in control of your life, YOU decide what happens, never mistake that for fate, destiny or whatever. Think of fate as a general idea, but, the general idea CAN be changed, and even if you don't change it, its up to you to fill in the gaps, the details, these things are up to you!

People always tend to exaggerate everything, and the "no one suffered as much as I did" seriously pisses me off. Look, you might have seen some very disturbing things, but here is what nobody tells you: everyone goes through the same cycle. Life is just a vicious circle that only repeats itself again and again, see the fun fact is, no one can live your life except yourself. So putting others in your shoes and see them getting confused about what to do is never gonna do you any good. To each is given the shoes that fit them, you just have to wear them and keep going.

The one thing that I tend to find in common with people who think "everything is written in stone" is a genuine feel of unworthiness; deep down they don't believe themselves worthy or even ready to feel happy. As if they are enjoying the 'victim/martyr' act they put up all the time. Now don't get me wrong, some of these people really have seen the worst in life. But that is not an excuse to close your eyes on all the good in this world.

It is however predictable that when someone lives and grows in an environment that requires them to always trust themselves (and often these people have been let down by almost everyone -if not all- of the people they know) that they decide the good is not worth the bad, so as a punishment for believing that, they tend to behave as a 'victim' for just knowing this 'fact'. Guess what, facts can be wrong, and you ARE wrong. Always remember that you take for granted, the smallest things, that cost people their lives to give you. Small amount of people even grasp the idea that they are free and are blessed to have this gift of freedom. If you have just THIS freedom, consider yourself very lucky.

In the end, I will only leave you with the advice: start living. Two simple, yet powerful words. Start living, do not regret anything, make mistakes because that is the only way you will learn. Think of it this way, every mistake you make, is a mistake you will never make again. With that said, someone who has never made a mistake never really tried anything new.


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